For Friends

How will you react when your friend finds out she is pregnant? An unplanned pregnancy can be scary. Your friend needs to know she is not alone, she can get through this, and that you will be there to help along the way.

Every year the WRC talks to friends, boyfriends, and parents of women who are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. If you are helping her through this difficult situation, let us know how we can help! Our client advocates and staff can answer all the questions you or she may have about her pregnancy and the options available.

“I’m Pregnant…”

An unplanned pregnancy can create a crisis for your friend. She may be very upset over missing her period and other pregnancy symptoms. As her friend, you can help her understand her pregnancy and choices for her next steps by letting her know we are here to help. Your friend deserves to know the specific procedures of each of the available abortion methods and their associated risks. She may also want to think about all her options, including parenting or adoption.

We are here to support her—just like you.

Here’s how you can help your friend, family member, or girlfriend know she is not alone:

What to Do:

  • Talk with her and listen to her. Ask her how she is feeling and listen for ways you can help. Sometimes the best way to help is to just be with her.

  • Talk with the people who care for her. Offer to help her tell her parents, the child’s father, and other family members who need to know. Listen for ways you can help her think through who to tell and when.

  • Call us and we will tell you everything about how she can come here for help during her unplanned pregnancy.

What Not to Do:

  • Do not shame her. She may feel guilty, embarrassed, or ashamed. Be a safe person for her, and stay positive and encouraging!

  • Do not pressure her. You may know what you would do if you were in her shoes, but she is the one who needs to decide. She needs to know you will be with her no matter what.

  • Do not cut her off. Most women with unplanned pregnancies already feel alone. Ensure she knows you will always stay with her and listen to her.

You Should Know:

A coerced abortion is illegal under Louisiana law.

An unplanned pregnancy often brings added pressure. Your friend may be worried about disappointing her family, losing her boyfriend, or hurting her career. These worries make it difficult for her to feel freedom about making informed choices.

Please reach out to us with any questions. All our services are free and confidential. We are here for you!